My name is Malana Hokulani.
In early 2023, I launched this publication while in the thick of a smear campaign and personal emergency as a way to speak out around the sexual abuse I’d experienced and to defend my spiritual teacher
and my support network against defamation attacks from my estranged family.Thank you to all who read, shared, and commented here and on social media during that time. I deeply appreciated your support and your efforts in helping me to hold my father and other abusers accountable.
If you’re just coming across this publication now, my first few articles serve as examples of what post-separation abuse can look like, whether it be separating from an abusive family or from an abusive spouse.
In my case, it was both.
At the time of updating this page, it’s the end of 2024, and I’m resurrecting this publication to talk more about what life looked like before, during, and after I began using my voice to speak out about my history of abuse.
Although signs of abuse were always there, I was blind to what they were– until I began to heal and connect the dots of my life.
My hope is that other women are able to learn how most abuse can stay hidden in plain sight, even from our own selves– and that once you see, you can set yourself free.
– Malana
